What’s the Difference Between Healing and Avoiding
What’s the Difference Between Healing and Avoiding?
Most people think they are healing…
when in truth, they are avoiding.
Avoiding feels like healing at first.
It feels peaceful, quiet, less painful — but it is temporary.
Healing, on the other hand, transforms the wound from the inside out — even when it feels uncomfortable.
This confusion is one of the biggest barriers to emotional and spiritual growth.
Let me begin with a real situation that reveals the difference clearly.
🌿 Case Study: The Woman Who Mistook Avoidance for Healing
We’ll call her Amira.
After leaving a painful relationship, Amira told me she was feeling “better” — lighter, happier, emotionally peaceful. She believed her healing was well underway.
But as we spoke, I began noticing signs of avoidance:
She refused to talk about her ex
She became emotionally shut down when a memory surfaced
She changed the topic quickly
She avoided places that triggered reminders
She said, “I’m fine. I don’t want to think about it”
Three months later, Amira unexpectedly saw her ex in public.
Her reaction?
heart pounding
shaking
uncontrollable tears
anger she couldn’t contain
She told me afterwards,
“I thought I was healed. I didn’t know the emotion was still inside me.”
This moment revealed the truth:
**Avoidance hides the wound.
Healing dissolves the wound.**
🌸 What Avoidance Looks Like (But Often Gets Mistaken for Healing)
Avoidance can look deceptively peaceful.
Signs of avoidance include:
1. Feeling “fine” because you’re not thinking about it
This is emotional suppression, not healing.
2. Keeping busy to stay distracted
Activity becomes a shield.
3. Avoiding deep conversations
Especially if they may trigger your emotions.
4. Numbing with work, food, social media, or spiritual bypassing
“Everything happens for a reason” becomes an escape, not wisdom.
5. Trying to “move on” without processing pain
The mind accelerates — the heart lags behind.
6. Feeling uncomfortable when the topic is mentioned
If talking about it brings emotional charge, the wound is alive.
Avoidance is protective but temporary.
It creates emotional stagnation.
🌼 What True Healing Looks Like
Healing is not about forgetting.
Healing is not about shutting down emotion.
Healing is not silence.
True healing looks like:
1. Being able to talk about the situation without emotional collapse
This is the biggest sign of emotional recovery.
2. Understanding the lesson or wisdom the experience brought
You begin to see growth instead of only pain.
3. Feeling compassion — not anger — toward the past
This does not mean approval.
It means freedom.
4. Your body no longer responds with tension, shaking, or panic
The nervous system is no longer holding the memory.
5. You stop seeking validation for your pain
You no longer need others to understand the story.
6. You feel grounded, even when remembering difficult experiences
The memory is integrated, not avoided.
Healing brings emotional neutrality — the highest sign of spiritual maturity.
🔮 The Spiritual and Metaphysical Difference
Avoidance happens at the level of the mind and ego.
Healing happens at the level of the soul.
Avoidance disconnects you from the wound.
Healing connects, transforms, and releases the wound.
Avoidance = Mental escape
Healing = Spiritual alchemy
Kabbalistic and metaphysical teachings explain it like this:
Pain is unresolved energy
Avoidance leaves the energy untouched
Healing transforms the energy into wisdom
Avoidance delays the growth
Healing activates the growth
Avoidance keeps you emotionally frozen
Healing frees you emotionally and spiritually
🌿 Why People Avoid Instead of Heal
People avoid because:
pain feels overwhelming
they don’t know how to face the wound
support or tools are lacking
the nervous system becomes protective
avoidance feels easier in the short term
Avoidance is an instinct. Healing is a choice.
🌟 How to Shift From Avoiding to Healing
Here are steps to begin true emotional transformation:
1. Practice Conscious Acknowledgment
Instead of “I’m fine,” try:
“Something inside me needs attention.”
“I feel discomfort — let me explore this.”
Awareness is the doorway to healing.
2. Journal the Truth
Write without judgment:
What am I afraid to face?
What emotion am I avoiding?
What do I fear will happen if I open this memory?
Journaling exposes hidden truth safely.
3. Use Sacred Oils (Frankincense & Myrrh)
Before journaling or meditating, rub a drop on your heart.
These oils:
soften emotional walls
bring clarity
elevate consciousness
calm the nervous system
They help you face what avoidance hides.
4. Allow Yourself to Feel
Sit in silence for 5 minutes.
Let emotions rise naturally.
Emotions dissolve when acknowledged.
5. Practice Memory Neutralisation
Recall the event
Breathe deeply
Say softly:
“This memory no longer has power over me.”
“I release it into divine light.”
Repeat until your body softens.
6. Use Spiritual Tools
These assist emotional processing:
✨ Kabbalistic Healing Prayers:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NRIQ9e23rBY
✨ Psalms & Healing Prayers:
https://sarainnerhealing.com/shop/prayers-for-healing/
✨ Spiritual Healing for Women (Affirmations):
https://sarainnerhealing.com/shop/spiritual-healing-for-women/
You shift from avoidance to transformation through sacred practice.
7. Work With Your Nervous System
Avoidance is a survival response.
Healing requires:
deep breathing
grounding foods (lentils, sweet potato, warm meals)
gentle movement
nature walks
emotional stillness
A regulated body creates space for emotional truth.
🌞 7-Day Healing vs Avoiding Reset Plan
Day 1 — Write the truth
What am I avoiding?
Day 2 — Emotional release journaling
Let the emotion speak.
Day 3 — Memory neutralisation
Revisit one memory with compassion.
Day 4 — Sacred oils + prayer
Invite divine support.
Day 5 — Reframing
Write the lesson.
Day 6 — Forgiveness practice
For yourself or others.
Day 7 — Reflection
Note shifts in your body and emotions.
This process begins true healing.
🌺 Take-Home Healing Program
For deeper support and guided healing work, explore:
👉 Inner Growth Store – Emotional & Spiritual Healing Programs
https://innergrowthstore.systeme.io/
These programs help you:
✓ release emotional blockages
✓ stop avoidance patterns
✓ build spiritual resilience
✓ create daily healing routines
Perfect for anyone ready to move from avoidance into transformation.
✍️ About the Author
Sara Inner Healing — Emotional alchemist, spiritual mentor, metaphysical practitioner.
More at https://sarainnerhealing.com
